I just got done playing a tennis match. Although we were playing in a competitive league, the match was a very friendly and cordial. As it should be. There were no cash prizes or trophies at stake — simply egos and bragging rights.

But my ego can really twist me up sometimes. Even though winning a tennis match won’t improve my life in any significant way, I still really want to win. That makes my opponents seem like enemies.

When playing for fun with friends, if someone hits a well-placed ball that I can’t return, it’s generally expected that I would congratulate them with a “Good shot!” comment.

But I’ve noticed that in tight competition, when my opponents have somehow become my enemies, my ego whispers in my ear, “Don’t say it! Don’t congratulate them on that shot!”

Usually, I recognize the ugly urge to withhold my praise. I take a breath and go ahead with the deserved compliment. But oddly, it kind of hurts a little. It’s a challenge to fight against human nature. But it’s exactly how Jesus wants His followers to behave.

“…bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.” (Luke‬ ‭6‬:‭28,‬ ‭CSB‬‬)

My opponents are trying to beat me just like I’m trying to beat them. Why should I wish them well? Why should I give them the satisfaction of a kind and encouraging word? Because that’s love.

When people I interact with in life, as on the tennis court, are mean or are taking from me or are trying to beat me in some way, my response is to be love. Encouragement. Kindness. Generosity. That is Jesus’s way.

Dear God, thank you for the reminder that my natural inclinations are not to be trusted. Forgive me for giving in to petty pride and selfish ego. Open my heart to love generously in all situations.